Last night we had a simple gathering to celebrate the 40th wedding anniversary of my parents. They are older, but still happy and in love. It got me thinking about what I have learned in my short 15 years of marriage. What follows are ten (there could be many more) things that I have learned.1. Show love daily. Say it, feel it, mean it, show it. Without all four things, it won;t mean much.
2. Don't whine. Don't whine about each other, kids, neighbors, friends, family, anything. It doesn't help anyone.
3. Put your spouse above the children. Sounds mean you say? The children must know that you two are very special to each other. Children will not treat my wife badly.
4. Allow the other person to get out. Whatever it may be, each will need time away.
5. Do nice little things. Many times they mean more than big things.
6. Believe your spouse is a better person than you. Don't just say it, believe it. Find their good and focus on that. That way you will always want to be with them and more like them.
7. Do something that takes time, and is special on important days. Shopping at the store just is not enough for the one you love.
8. Dates don't always have to be fancy. Just sitting in a park eating ice cream is very enjoyable and relaxing.
9. Let them make their own decisions. Your way is not always the best way.
10. Remember how special they were to you when you met. There are many others out there who would have or could have married them. Treat them as such, you are lucky.
Obviously it is easy to write these things, living them isn't always so easy. But I have found when I do life is easier happier and a lot more fun.
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